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How To Stop Living In Fear And Start Living In Love

by Sally Wright |

“The saddest summary of life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have.” Don’t fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things.

Too often, we allow fear, worry, and doubt to dominate and define our lives. We allow it to steal our joy, our sleep, and our precious dreams.

If you want to know happiness and realize your dreams, you have to be willing to take a leap of faith despite being afraid.

Too often, we hold back and play it safe, in order to avoid becoming successful, feeling embarrassed, looking silly, being hurt, and facing rejection or possible failure.

We cling to fear from our childhood, traumatic experiences, and the negative media. It’s our responsibility to acknowledge, face, and dissolve our fear.

Are you willing to begin now, to dig for the courage to do all the things you were meant to do, but haven’t yet begun?

The following tips will allow you to face fear and put it in its place:

1. Get comfortable with fear.

Invite fear into your life. When you fear something, move toward it. Feel it, and breathe through it.

Do the things that frighten you. Action builds courage. Tell yourself, “This fear will pass.” Your world expands as your courage expands.

2. Make your dominant thoughts positive.

Fearful thoughts attract more fear. Positive thoughts attract success. Instead of expecting the worst, train your mind to expect the best. Only allow positive assumptions about your future.

3. Don’t give time, attention, or energy to fear.

Hold yourself accountable. Be consistent, be prepared, be dependable, and focus on solutions.

Be innovative, take the initiative, and go the extra mile. If you don’t take action despite your fear, opportunity will pass you by.

4. Never dwell on scarcity.

Learn to think, speak, and live as an abundant person. Turn off the news. Celebrate what you have. Be generous.

Focus your attention on being ready, willing, and prepared for the beauty, wonder, connections, good fortune, and favorable circumstances that are yours if you are willing to work and be open to it.

5. Revisit your victories.

Strengthen your belief in yourself by reflecting on the last three years of your life and every success you’ve experienced.

Close your eyes and feel the celebratory emotion of each one. Bring the same drive, persistence, and talent into now and allow it to inspire and motivate you.

6. Live vicariously through the victories of others.

Use the success stories of others. Read how the Brooklyn Bridge was built. Study the success of Steve Jobs, Walt Disney, Steven Spielberg, Tony Robbins, and Oprah Winfrey. Take note of the courage they developed and follow their path to greatness.

7. Ask your family and friends for encouragement.<span

Friends and family can see your strength when you forget you have it. At my request, they won’t hesitate to remind you of all trials and triumphs you have come through. Ask your loved ones to do this for you. They will be generous with praise and encouragement.

8. Create a support group of friends or colleagues.

Robert Fulghum said it best in his book, All I Really Needed to Know I Learned in Kindergarten: “When you go out into the world, it is best to hold hands and stick together.” Sticking together makes tough times easier and easier times more fun!

9. Plan to be great.

Step into your power and dream big. Follow it up with calculated risks and deliberate action steps. Have no doubt about your success.

love is real. Where we see fear, it is merely an illusion; a call for love.

Fear encompasses so many of the negative emotions we encounter every day. In fact, it IS every negative emotion we experience.

The defensiveness we feel when our boss approaches our desk, the silent judgment we pass at the man talking loudly on his phone on the train, the way we snap at our partner after a long day. It all comes from a lack of loving intent, and so, can be classified as fear.

How does it feel to live in love instead of fear? What would it be like to spend a day seeing only with love? No matter what happened or who did what to you, you didn’t get angry or upset and genuinely only saw love in the people around you. How would it change your behavior and the way your day panned out?

Here’s what most people find:

I have less arguments — when I can let go of my need to be right or to defend my position in some way, it’s amazing how quickly arguments dissolve into nothing. When an argument does erupt, I can see exactly where I launched into fear in hindsight.

I have more opportunities — when you put your trust in love, instead of fearing the worst, or constantly worrying about the “bad” people in the world or thinking that you have bad luck or karma, the Universe opens its doors and showers you with love. The list of synchronicities that I have from holding a more loving intention is pretty much endless.

Animals like you more — seriously, they pick up on the vibes!

There are loads of others, too, but hopefully that’s enough of a taste to have you thinking that maybe living in fear isn’t such a good thing.

>Are you living in fear?

Here’s how we think about fear. Read through the list and make a mental note of how often you do this per day:

  • Judge someone else
  • Judge yourself
  • Stress, worry, or get anxious about something
  • Shout at someone
  • Snap at someone
  • Gossip
  • Feel angry or slighted
  • Carry a grudge
  • Complain
  • Rely on your own strength (instead of letting the Universe help)
  • Feel guilty

My guess is you probably do a lot of this on a daily basis. I know I did! When we’re used to living like this, sometimes it can feel really uncomfortable to hear that there’s a different option.

The option described above IS available to you now. It’s that easy. Choosing love is all about perception. It can take time to retrain your brain, but it doesn’t have to.

My personal mantra (which I repeat about 1,000 times a day) is: I forgive myself and I choose to see this differently.

Every time any one of those fears in the list comes up, I become aware of it, I let it out if I need to, and I repeat the mantra. If it feels too uncomfortable for you, you can try, “I am open to forgiving myself and seeing this differently” instead. It will work.

Keep going. Stop holding yourself back. You were made of greatness and for greatness, and you deserve a life of love!